by Maya Sin
I’ve been fortunate to be a lifestyle and professional dominatrix for six years now. I have cultivated a stable of slaves around the world. I’ve traveled far and wide, and I’ve learned so much through this journey.
The combination of my extensive travel, my experiences with a variety of slaves, what I’ve learned as a professional dominatrix puts me in a unique position where I have observed and experienced things that most I have observed and experienced things that most lifestyle players would take a lifetime to accumulate.
I’ve met with many different slaves from all around the world and had to quickly learn what they needed at the beginning of a session. I have resources, a fetish wardrobe, equipment, and connections that only a Professional may have access to. Plus I’ve created clips and films that have allowed me to explore kinks and fetishes that some people would blush at the mere mention.
I think this experience has given me an expertise in this world that I would like to share with you now.
Submission does not have to be a full-time activity
I’ve talked with a lot of submissive men who are concerned about what being sexually submissive says about their character, or who they are outside of the bedroom.
I’m going to share a secret with you that maybe you never heard before. People who are submissive are often some of the most accomplished and driven people in the world. It is common for submissives, who kneel for me, and do the most degrading and humiliating acts for my amusement, are also captains of industry, accomplished lawyers, titans of technology, or other men who have great authority in their regular lives.
What submission allows these people to do is to take a vacation from their grinding real-world responsibilities and enjoy the freedom that comes from giving that power to a dominant woman, for an hour, for a weekend, and sometimes longer.
That’s certainly not the only reason why people submit. Some men just enjoy flipping the patriarchal paradigm and serving a beautiful woman. Others get off on how sexually charged a scene is when they are totally vulnerable. Whatever the reason you are attracted to being submissive, realize that it’s okay to give that power away for a short period of time and still be a good man afterward.
It’s okay to not be into pain
If you’ve been inundated by porn, or social media, books, television, or movies about BDSM, then you may be under the impression that all power exchange relationships must include pain. While it’s perfectly fine if you’re into pain, it’s not required in a Femdom relationship.
I’m going to share another secret with you now. Most of the submissive men that I have known are not into pain. And I’ve had so many amazing scenes with slaves and submissives without any pain being involved at all. There are so many things that I can do with a submissive man besides inflicting pain.
Scenes that involve pegging, chastity, humiliation, feminization, bondage, and so much more, do not have to include any pain at all.
So many people are scared away from what might be a fulfilling experience with a lifestyle Domme because they are concerned about pain and being marked or being hurt. If you’re one of those people, I want to assure you that you’re not alone, and there is a whole world of activities out there in female domination where pain is not involved.
It’s about connection
So many inexperienced men get hung up on all of the gadgets, toys, and implements that are associated with BDSM. It’s another unfortunate result of how BDSM is portrayed in media. If all the whips, chains, bondage furniture, and sexual gizmos are a turnoff for you, want you need to know is that those things are not important.
What is ultimately important is simply the connection that you have with a dominant woman.
That connection can happen in all the ways that you see portrayed on the Internet and elsewhere, but it can also happen quietly, with none of the gadgets, and emphasizing the mental aspects of power exchange between a dominant woman and a submissive man.
Some of the most powerful scenes happen when two people are fully engaged in their roles and both parties are open-minded and honest with each other. Beautiful, challenging, and sexually charged activities can happen without any of the implements you usually see.
And you know what? It’s exactly those scenes, where Femdom and imagination take control, that are often my favorites.
As an experienced dominatrix, I’ve seen so many men who are concerned about what being submissive says about them as a man or are afraid of the wild scenes they see involving pain or exotic implements. I want to dispel those myths and tell submissive men that you can have a full and uncompromising Femdom adventure without all of those things.
The reality is that all you need is a willing partner and a real connection to make it happen.