The internet is filled with so many terms and so much information. Years ago, people who were interested in a female led relationship had very little information at all. Now people are inundated with information, but it’s so hard to find anything that is on target, informed, and authentic.

Real femdom does not have to include practices like heavy corporal punishment, degradation, and stuff you’ll see mostly in video clips. Instead, it may focus on the softer aspects that you might experience in a real relationship with a dominant girlfriend or a wife.

It can be real femdom and still very much about giving up control to a powerful woman, but include more intimate activities like strap-ons, foot worship, chastity play, tease and denial, feminization, slave tasks, sissy play, and slut play.

It’s so important to note that in the BDSM community every term has a wide and ranging opinion on what it means, and that no definition will satisfy everyone. Also, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with more hardcore play or more extreme practices, but the people who are searching for real femdom are mostly looking for something less intense, and perhaps desire more connection.